– I ran across a quote this week which I will share below, but the gist of the passage is that time matters, quality of life matters. The last several weeks have been some of the most stressful times in my life, yet somehow I have held my head high and found solutions to some very difficult problems. One thing became clear in all of this, I had to start taking better care of me and create a balance between responsibilities and taking time to live.
– As mothers, wives, girlfriends, parents, husbands, fathers, whatever your status, it is easy to fall into that do for others trap. I often find myself working all day at the high school and then coming home to needy young children and more lessons to teach (we are doing a hybrid of homeschool/montessori/tudors for my just turned five year-old. My lunch breaks are either monitoring or helping students or calling around for doctors, dentist appointments or balancing my checkbook. If you read this blog, you will notice I am writing a bit less the last few weeks. My life is busy. I thought I was finding more balance. If you are paying close attention, even in this article you can see the beginnings of a clear pattern. I am finding balance meeting everyones needs but mine. Something tells me based on my observations, that as the world becomes more technologically advanced, there never seems to be enough time. Many of us need a bit of balance so our lives don’t pass us by too quickly.
– Here is the thing though, I love teaching, I love my husband and kids, they bring me so much joy. In the hectic there is so much love and gratitude. That every day “must get done list” is just something that has to happen. So I decided that what I am searching for is just more time to help me expand as a person. Moving a bit away from teaching and familial responsibilities. I have wanderlust like you would not believe and sometimes I just want the familiar, the cozy, something simple. So this morning I resolved three things:
- First, once a week I will try to do one thing that is fun and meaningful. That may be making homemade applesauce and carving pumpkins with my daughter, or going to the Opera with my husband, or many number of things.
- Second, I also resolved that I would do one thing a week that would enrich who I am. I may start playing piano again, take another photography class or finish learning French, or spruce up my Spanish. I am also thinking long term. I especially want to satisfy that wanderlust and begin to prepare for Italy/Greece in March. and Japan the following year. A less expensive activity that anyone can do under this prong is choose one personal development book and give yourself 15 minutes a day to journal, sip your coffee or tea, and consider the possibilities.
– The last resolution I believe is the hardest. It requires one to recognize that physical, emotional and financial health of the individual must be a top priority. My mother always tells me “If you do not have your health, you will not be the best you can be to yourself or others.” I believe this is true, and yet many of us have a hard time saying no and overextend ourselves on so many levels.
- For my last goal, I plan to do one thing a day that takes care of me as an individual. At least one, more would be great. That may mean setting up a workout plan, right now I have an injury but I am still walking 3 miles five times a week. It could be a better meal plan, prepping wholesome foods on the weekend. This will vary based on your needs but, the sky is the limit; everything from calling that bill collector, paying off debts, to seeking counseling if you may need it. What about listening to your heart and its deepest desires? Can those desires be accomplished, can you take steps to work towards your own happiness? This is not selfish, this is your life.
As time keeps ticking, what are you doing so that at the end you have no regrets?